The dictatorship of idealization, better known as perfectionism
Perfectionism represents a pathological desire to achieve perfection in all aspects of life. Perfectionism is often seen as a positive characteristic, which is associated with success and high standards, but it also has its dark side. People who suffer from perfectionism often judge and criticize themselves for every mistake they make, feel insecure and unfulfilled, and have a tendency towards depression and other mental disorders.
As we have already stated, perfectionism can have serious consequences for mental health. This is reflected in constant anxiety and fear of failure, as well as feelings of dissatisfaction and insufficient value. Perfectionists often set unrealistically high standards for themselves, which leads to a constant search for perfection, often expressed through the avoidance of situations in which superior results cannot be achieved, such as challenging projects, risk in work, passionate relationships or creative activities.
There are various therapeutic approaches that can help people overcome perfectionism and become more fulfilled in life.
Acceptance and commitment therapy helps clients accept their weaknesses and relax in their own skin. This approach focuses on developing awareness of life values and goals, and on identifying the problems that prevent the client from achieving them. Through this process, clients learn to accept themselves as a whole and not focus only on their weaknesses.
One of the most popular therapeutic methods for combating perfectionism is mindfulness. This technique focuses on the present moment and helps the client focus on what is important at the moment, instead of the future or the past. Through breathing exercises, meditation, and carefully guided conversations, clients learn to focus on what is happening in the present, rather than on what happened in the past or what will happen in the future. This helps reduce anxiety and stress, and develops the ability to accept the current situation without criticism or self-criticism.
Perfectionism is often associated with control, so therapeutic approaches that focus on controlling and regulating emotions are also useful. Clients learn how to recognize and accept their emotions, instead of repressing them, which often leads to even more anxiety and tension. Through techniques such as breathing, meditation and visualization, clients learn how to regulate their emotions, and how to deal with stress and pressure.
A person suffering from perfectionism may tend to set high standards when it comes to relationships with other people, and will judge themselves or others if these standards are not met. This can lead to feelings of isolation and loneliness, as the person will not be able to enjoy authentic relationships with other people due to the constant worry about whether they meet their standards.
Therapeutically, approaches that focus on understanding and accepting oneself and others can be useful in this case.
Ultimately, perfectionism can be a limiting factor that hinders personal development and happiness. Through therapeutic work, clients can learn how to accept themselves as a whole, including their faults and shortcomings. This will allow them to live life to the fullest and enjoy authentic relationships with other people, without constantly worrying about meeting their own high standards.
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