Believe – In an age characterized by unprecedented access to information, scientific advancement, and widespread questioning of traditional institutions, belief itself sometimes appears quaint or outdated. Skepticism and critical thinking are rightly valued, yet from a psychotherapeutic perspective—particularly through Gestalt and Somatic Experiencing lenses—the capacity to believe in something remains fundamentally important to psychological health,…
Brutal honesty. In a world where social niceties, diplomatic phrasing, and careful self-censorship often prevail, there exists a transformative force that many find both terrifying and liberating: brutal honesty. From a Gestalt therapy and Somatic Experiencing perspective, this raw, unfiltered truth-telling represents not merely communication but a profound pathway to psychological healing, authentic connection, and…
The phrase “betraying our parents” often evokes strong emotional reactions. It can sound harsh, even sacrilegious in cultures that deeply value filial piety and family loyalty. Yet, from a therapeutic perspective, particularly within Gestalt therapy and Somatic Experiencing frameworks, this psychological process represents not an act of disloyalty but a necessary developmental step toward authentic…
Self-Mistreatment Self-Mistreatment . In the quiet moments of self-reflection, many of us discover a harsh truth: we often treat ourselves in ways we would never treat others. The internal critic berates us for minor mistakes, we push our bodies beyond reasonable limits, deny ourselves rest, and engage in self-sabotaging behaviors that undermine our well-being and…
You Don’t Have to Prove Your Worth, Ever Prove Your Worth. The pattern operates so constantly you might barely notice it—that subtle internal pressure to demonstrate your value, to justify your space in the world, to earn your right to exist. Perhaps it manifests as relentless productivity, never quite allowing yourself to rest without guilt.…
You Can’t Heal in the Same Environment That Hurt You Environment That Hurt You. Do you find yourself stuck in repetitive patterns despite your best efforts to change? Perhaps you’ve tried various self-improvement approaches, therapeutic techniques, or personal growth strategies, yet notice the same emotional triggers, relationship dynamics, or self-defeating behaviors persistently returning.…
True self – How to Stop Abandoning Yourself in Relationships True self. The moment often happens so subtly you barely notice it—that slight internal flinch when your authentic response rises, followed by the automatic adjustment of your words, needs, or boundaries to maintain harmony in a relationship. Perhaps you find yourself agreeing with a perspective…
How to Stop Merging with Other People’s Emotions Stop Merging. Do you find yourself automatically absorbing the emotions of those around you? Perhaps you enter a room and immediately sense the emotional atmosphere, feeling others’ stress, sadness, or anxiety as if it were your own. Maybe you notice your mood shifting dramatically depending on who…
What Growing Up Too Fast Does to the Soul Growing Up. Did you assume adult responsibilities long before you were developmentally ready? Perhaps you cared for younger siblings, managed household affairs, or provided emotional support to adults while still a child yourself. Maybe you learned to present a mature, capable exterior that masked your age-appropriate…
The pattern feels painfully familiar. You begin a new practice with enthusiasm—perhaps an exercise routine, a creative project, a meditation practice, or improved eating habits. The first days bring energy and commitment. Then, despite your genuine intentions, the consistency begins to waver. Days pass without engagement. The habit that seemed so important gradually fades from…