Negotiation skills in everyday relationships
The ability to negotiate effectively is a valuable skill in personal and professional settings, as it enables individuals to communicate their needs, advocate for themselves, and achieve mutually beneficial outcomes. However, negotiation can also be a source of anxiety and stress for many people, especially those who struggle with assertiveness or fear conflict.
Ultimately, it’s about finding a compromise between the two sides, not a winner-takes-all mentality. Individuals often approach negotiations from a position of defense or aggression, which can be counterproductive and ultimately harm their relationships with others. Instead, we can start from the perspective of understanding the other person, identifying points of contact and communicating our own needs in a clear and respectful way.
One technique is a “narrowing” approach, where individuals focus on one specific issue at a time rather than trying to solve multiple problems at once. This can help prevent overwhelm and allow both parties to focus on finding a mutually acceptable solution. It also emphasizes the importance of active listening and empathetic communication, which can help build trust and rapport between negotiators.
Another important aspect of negotiation is understanding one’s own values and priorities. This can help individuals advocate for themselves and make decisions that are consistent with their personal goals and values.
It is also important to recognize that negotiation is not always the best approach in every situation. In some cases, compromise may not be possible or may not be in line with an individual’s values. In these cases, it may be more appropriate to set boundaries or walk away from the situation altogether.
Overall, the art of negotiation is a complex and nuanced skill that requires practice and self-awareness. I encourage negotiations that focus on empathy, active listening, and a willingness to compromise when necessary. By developing these skills, individuals can become more effective advocates for themselves and build stronger, more fulfilling relationships with others.
One of the challenges in negotiations is managing emotions and maintaining a calm and measured approach, especially when disagreements arise. It is important to recognize emotions in both yourself and others and to use language that is respectful and non-judgmental.
Another factor that can affect the outcome of a negotiation is power dynamics. In some situations, one party may have more influence or control than the other, which can make it more difficult to achieve a mutually beneficial outcome. In these cases, it may be necessary to seek additional support or resources, such as legal or financial advice, to level the playing field. In addition, it is important to recognize the role of privilege and bias in negotiations and actively work to challenge these power structures to create more equitable outcomes.
It is important to recognize that negotiation is not always a linear process and that setbacks or disagreements may occur along the way. It is important to maintain a long-term perspective and stay focused on the end goal of finding a mutually beneficial outcome. This may require flexibility, adaptability and a willingness to revise one’s approach as necessary.
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