So, what if you have narcissistic mother? Do you have a narcissistic mother ? The relationship between a mother and child forms the fundamental template for how we experience love, safety, and our own sense of worth. When this primary relationship is distorted by narcissistic patterns, the consequences ripple through every aspect of a person’s…
Understanding Relationship Problems: When Contact Becomes a Threat Human relationships represent the most complex and important dimension of our existence, simultaneously being the source of our greatest joys and deepest suffering. Relationship problems arise when our natural patterns of contact and withdrawal become rigid and maladaptive, preventing us from experiencing genuine meeting with other people.…
Understanding Hospital Trauma: When Healing Becomes a Source of Pain Hospital environments, while designed for healing, can become places where deep psychological trauma is born. Hospital trauma occurs when a person experiences medical procedures as threats to their safety, dignity, or control over their own body. This type of trauma often remains unrecognized and…
Why am I always broke? Money as Weapon: How Narcissistic Parents Use Finances for Control and How it Affects Children Why am I always broke? In healthy families, money serves as a practical tool for meeting basic needs, ensuring security, and creating opportunities for growth. In narcissistic families, money becomes something entirely different – it…
The Healing Power of “Boring” Relationships – Redefining Relationship Excitement In our culture saturated with dramatic love stories and passionate tales of tumultuous romance, we have been conditioned to equate intensity with love and chaos with passion. Yet, what if the very thing we’ve been taught to fear in relationships—the absence of constant drama, the predictable…
How to Overcome Depression: A Complete Guide to Recovery and Bringing Joy Back to Life Depression is one of the most common and serious mental health problems of our time. If you’re currently struggling with depression, you may feel like you’re trapped in a dark tunnel with no end. It’s important that you know –…
How to Overcome Anxiety: A Practical Guide to Conquering Fear and Returning to Balance Anxiety is one of the most common mental health problems faced by people worldwide. If you feel like fear and worry constantly follow you, know that you are not alone. Millions of people experience anxiety daily, and the good news is…
Online Therapy in New York – Compassionate Care, Wherever You Are Professional, confidential, and convenient online therapy in New York State If you’re feeling anxious, overwhelmed, or emotionally stuck — you’re not alone. Many people across New York are seeking meaningful support without the stress of commuting or finding the “right” location. That’s why I…
I am free. In the landscape of therapeutic concepts, few ideas hold as much transformative potential as the simple yet profound declaration: “I am free.” This statement, when deeply internalized, represents far more than a philosophical abstraction or positive affirmation. From Gestalt and Somatic Experiencing perspectives, the embodied understanding of personal freedom constitutes a cornerstone…
Family Constellations, developed by German psychotherapist Bert Hellinger, is often associated with group workshops where participants physically represent elements of a client’s family system. However, this powerful methodology can be effectively adapted for one-to-one therapeutic settings, integrating seamlessly with both Gestalt therapy and Somatic Experiencing approaches. This article explores how constellation principles can be applied…
Fear of Your Own Anger. Few emotions generate as much internal conflict as anger. While some struggle to contain angry outbursts, many others experience profound fear of their own anger—avoiding it, suppressing it, or becoming anxious when they feel its stirrings. From a Gestalt therapy and Somatic Experiencing perspective, this fear of anger often indicates…
Guilt and How to Process It Guilt – That uncomfortable sensation of having done something wrong or failed to do something right— ranks among our most complex and challenging emotional experiences. As a Gestalt therapist and Somatic Experiencing practitioner, I’ve observed how this powerfully shapes behavior, relationships, and self-perception, sometimes productively guiding moral action…
Shame. Few emotional experiences prove as devastating or difficult to transform as shame. Unlike guilt, which focuses on specific behaviors (“I did something bad”), shame indicts the core self (“I am bad”). This profound emotional state shapes identity, relationships, and behavior in powerful ways, often operating outside conscious awareness while limiting authentic expression and connection.…
Loneliness ranks among the most painful human experiences, yet it often persists despite apparent social connection or even within the context of relationships. As both a Gestalt therapist and Somatic Experiencing practitioner, I’ve observed how a particular form of loneliness emerges not from physical isolation but from the inability to be authentically known and accepted…
Attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) affects millions of people worldwide, creating significant challenges with attention regulation, executive functioning, emotional regulation, and impulse control. While conventional treatments like stimulant medications and behavioral interventions remain first-line approaches, growing research suggests that certain mushrooms—both psychedelic and non-psychedelic varieties—may offer promising complementary approaches for addressing ADHD symptoms. This article explores the…
The Two-Chair Technique, a cornerstone method in Gestalt therapy, offers a powerful approach for resolving internal conflicts, working through ambivalence, and integrating polarized aspects of self- experience. As a Gestalt therapist who regularly employs this method, I’ve witnessed its remarkable effectiveness for issues ranging from decision-making dilemmas to inner critic dynamics to unfinished emotional business…
Hug a Pillow. Something as simple as hugging a pillow might seem childish or trivial at first glance. Yet from a therapeutic perspective, particularly through Gestalt and Somatic Experiencing lenses, this practice offers profound physiological and psychological benefits that extend far beyond mere comfort. This seemingly modest action activates multiple neurobiological systems that support emotional…
Family Constellation work, developed by Bert Hellinger, traditionally takes place in group settings where participants physically represent elements of a person’s family system. However, this powerful approach to systemic healing and insight can be adapted for personal use. As a practitioner trained in both Gestalt therapy and Somatic Experiencing who regularly incorporates constellation principles in…
Somatic Exercises. The fast-paced, often overstimulating nature of modern life frequently triggers our stress response systems, leaving many people in states of persistent physiological activation or shutdown. As a Gestalt therapist and Somatic Experiencing practitioner, I’ve observed how directly engaging the body—rather than relying solely on cognitive approaches—offers powerful pathways for restoring balance to dysregulated…
The concept of the “inner child” represents one of the most powerful frameworks for understanding and healing emotional wounds carried from childhood into adult life. Pioneer John Bradshaw, through his groundbreaking work on family systems and recovery, developed specific meditative approaches for reconnecting with and healing these younger aspects of self. As a Gestalt therapist…
Mania, typically understood as a clinical symptom of bipolar disorder or related conditions, represents one of the most complex and paradoxical expressions of human psychology. While conventional medical perspectives often approach mania primarily as a neurochemical imbalance requiring medication, a deeper psychological and somatic understanding reveals that manic states frequently embody a profound dialectic between…
Family Constellations, developed by German psychotherapist Bert Hellinger, offers a unique therapeutic experience that differs substantially from conventional talk therapy approaches. As both a Gestalt and Somatic Experiencing practitioner, I’ve observed how this powerful modality provides distinctive benefits that address dimensions of human experience often untouched by other therapeutic approaches. This article explores what participants…
Depression, commonly approached as a cognitive or neurochemical disorder, takes on new dimensions when viewed through the lens of Somatic Experiencing (SE). This body-centered therapeutic approach, developed by trauma specialist Dr. Peter Levine, offers a distinctive understanding of depression as a physiological response pattern with deep connections to our evolutionary survival mechanisms. By recognizing depression’s…
Anxiety, in its many manifestations, represents one of the most common challenges to mental wellbeing in contemporary society. While conventional approaches often focus on cognitive aspects of anxiety or biochemical interventions, Somatic Experiencing (SE) offers a distinctive perspective that addresses anxiety through the wisdom and innate healing capacity of the body itself. As a body-oriented…
Injuries, within the realms of somatic psychology, body-centered psychotherapy, and various holistic healing traditions, the location of physical symptoms and injuries is understood to carry psychological and emotional significance. In particular, the distinction between left and right sides of the body has been explored as potentially meaningful in understanding the deeper messages our bodies may…
Morphic Field. The concept of morphic fields represents one of the most intriguing and controversial theories in contemporary science and therapeutic practice. Originally proposed by biologist Rupert Sheldrake in the 1980s, morphic fields offer a compelling framework for understanding phenomena that defy conventional scientific explanation—from the collective behaviors of organisms to the seemingly inexplicable information…
Family Constellations, also known as Systemic Constellations or Systemic Family Therapy, represents a powerful therapeutic approach that illuminates hidden dynamics within family systems and provides pathways toward resolution and healing. Developed by German psychotherapist Bert Hellinger in the 1990s, this methodology integrates elements from psychoanalysis, family systems therapy, existential phenomenology, and indigenous healing traditions to…
How to Find the Strength to Say NO! Say NO – The simple word “no” carries remarkable power. For many people, however, using this power effectively remains one of life’s greatest challenges. The inability to say no—to unreasonable requests, invasive behaviors, or activities that don’t align with our values—creates patterns of overcommitment, resentment, and…
Believe – In an age characterized by unprecedented access to information, scientific advancement, and widespread questioning of traditional institutions, belief itself sometimes appears quaint or outdated. Skepticism and critical thinking are rightly valued, yet from a psychotherapeutic perspective—particularly through Gestalt and Somatic Experiencing lenses—the capacity to believe in something remains fundamentally important to psychological health,…
Brutal honesty. In a world where social niceties, diplomatic phrasing, and careful self-censorship often prevail, there exists a transformative force that many find both terrifying and liberating: brutal honesty. From a Gestalt therapy and Somatic Experiencing perspective, this raw, unfiltered truth-telling represents not merely communication but a profound pathway to psychological healing, authentic connection, and…
The phrase “betraying our parents” often evokes strong emotional reactions. It can sound harsh, even sacrilegious in cultures that deeply value filial piety and family loyalty. Yet, from a therapeutic perspective, particularly within Gestalt therapy and Somatic Experiencing frameworks, this psychological process represents not an act of disloyalty but a necessary developmental step toward authentic…
Self-Mistreatment Self-Mistreatment . In the quiet moments of self-reflection, many of us discover a harsh truth: we often treat ourselves in ways we would never treat others. The internal critic berates us for minor mistakes, we push our bodies beyond reasonable limits, deny ourselves rest, and engage in self-sabotaging behaviors that undermine our well-being and…
Anxiety – You Deserve a Life That Doesn’t Feel Like Survival Anxiety. The sensation is unmistakable—that persistent background tension, the feeling of always being slightly on alert, muscles never quite releasing their vigilance. Days blur together in endless responses to immediate demands. Your breathing stays shallow, never quite reaching your lower abdomen. Planning beyond immediate…
The pattern feels painfully familiar. You begin a new practice with enthusiasm—perhaps an exercise routine, a creative project, a meditation practice, or improved eating habits. The first days bring energy and commitment. Then, despite your genuine intentions, the consistency begins to waver. Days pass without engagement. The habit that seemed so important gradually fades from…
True self – How to Stop Abandoning Yourself in Relationships True self. The moment often happens so subtly you barely notice it—that slight internal flinch when your authentic response rises, followed by the automatic adjustment of your words, needs, or boundaries to maintain harmony in a relationship. Perhaps you find yourself agreeing with a perspective…
When You’ve Been the Therapist in All Your Relationships You notice it happening again. A conversation with a friend gradually shifts until you’re listening intently, asking thoughtful questions, creating space for their emotional process—while your own experience remains unexpressed. You feel the familiar sensation of fading slightly as your attention focuses completely on the…
The Guilt of Choosing Yourself for the First Time Guilt. It arrives with unmistakable intensity—a wave of discomfort washing through your body when you finally say no to an unreasonable request. The tightness in your chest after booking a solo trip you’ve always wanted to take. The knot in your stomach when you set a…
Unconditional love – Why Love Feels Conditional (And How to Change That) Unconditional love. The sensation is instantly recognizable—that subtle tightening in your chest when you consider expressing an unpopular opinion around someone whose approval matters to you. The careful calculation before sharing difficult news with a partner. The unconscious adjustments to your behavior depending…
Authentic living – You’re Allowed to Outgrow People, Even Family Authentic living. The discomfort surfaces during holiday gatherings, phone calls that feel increasingly obligatory, or conversations where you carefully filter your thoughts and experiences. Something has shifted. The connection that once felt natural now requires effort, performance, contraction. You’ve outgrown someone important in your life—perhaps…
When You Confuse Peace with Boredom Boredom. The stillness feels uncomfortable, almost itchy. Your mind begins searching for something—a problem to solve, a conflict to address, a task to complete. The calm that surrounds you doesn’t register as peace but as emptiness, a void that needs filling. This response isn’t unusual. Many of us have…
The Quiet Grief of Never Feeling Truly Seen Never Feeling Truly Seen. It happens in subtle moments. Someone interrupts you mid-sentence. A partner compliments a quality you don’t particularly value while overlooking what you’re most proud of. A family member continues buying gifts that reflect who you were a decade ago, not who you’ve become.…
Why You Struggle to Ask for Help (Even When You Need It) Why You Struggle. The sensations are familiar: tightness in your throat, a flutter in your stomach, perhaps a slight increase in your heart rate. Your body knows before your mind fully registers it—you need help, yet something blocks you from reaching out.…
The Healing Power of Saying ‘This Hurt Me’ Healing Power. The words often feel impossible to form—that simple, direct acknowledgment: “This hurt me.” Instead, we find ourselves taking endless detours around this fundamental truth. Perhaps we minimize the impact (“It’s not really a big deal”), intellectualize the experience (“I understand why they did it”), or…
You Don’t Have to Earn Rest You Don’t Have to Earn Rest. Do you find yourself unable to truly rest without first accomplishing something that justifies this basic human need? Perhaps you notice persistent guilt when attempting to relax without preceding productivity, feel uncomfortable taking breaks unless you’ve reached exhaustion that makes continued activity impossible,…
How to Feel Safe in Your Own Body Again How to Feel Safe. Regulation loses its somatic foundation, intuitive decision-making lacks its bodily component, authentic self-expression becomes disconnected from its physical dimension, and present-moment engagement remains partial rather than complete. The resulting fragmentation affects virtually every aspect of human experience, from basic physiological regulation to…
Your Inner Critic Isn’t You, It’s a Survival Voice Inner Critic. Do you experience persistent internal commentary that judges your actions with harsh standards no external person would likely impose? Perhaps you notice a distinct voice within that reliably points out your shortcomings, questions your worth, or predicts negative outcomes despite contrary evidence. Maybe you…
Why You Can’t Relax, Even When Things Are Okay Relax. Do you find yourself unable to truly unwind even when external circumstances finally settle? Perhaps you notice persistent tension in your body despite objectively safe surroundings, experience racing thoughts during moments that should allow mental ease, or feel a mysterious sense of impending doom precisely…
The Pain of Being Misunderstood (And How to Heal It) The Pain of Being Misunderstood. Have you repeatedly experienced the distinct ache of expressing something meaningful only to have it fundamentally misinterpreted? Perhaps you carefully articulate your perspective, feelings, or intentions, yet consistently find others responding to something significantly different from what you actually…
You’re Not Difficult, You’re Deep You’re Not Difficult. Have you been told you’re “too intense,” “overthinking things,” or “making everything complicated”? Perhaps you notice subtle dismissal when you explore the deeper implications of experiences others seem content to take at surface value, or sense discomfort when you express the full complexity of your emotional…
What Growing Up Too Fast Does to the Soul Growing Up. Did you assume adult responsibilities long before you were developmentally ready? Perhaps you cared for younger siblings, managed household affairs, or provided emotional support to adults while still a child yourself. Maybe you learned to present a mature, capable exterior that masked your age-appropriate…
You Can’t Heal in the Same Environment That Hurt You Environment That Hurt You. Do you find yourself stuck in repetitive patterns despite your best efforts to change? Perhaps you’ve tried various self-improvement approaches, therapeutic techniques, or personal growth strategies, yet notice the same emotional triggers, relationship dynamics, or self-defeating behaviors persistently returning.…
When You Love People Who Don’t Know How to Love You Back Love People. The realization often arrives quietly—perhaps during a moment when you’ve once again reached across the emotional divide only to find emptiness in return. You notice the familiar ache in your chest, the slight constriction in your throat, the subtle but unmistakable…
How to Recognize Emotional Breadcrumbs Emotional Breadcrumbs. Do you find yourself holding onto minimal signs of care or connection from certain people? Perhaps you interpret brief moments of attention as evidence of deep investment, treasure small gestures that seem to indicate interest or affection, or find yourself analyzing ambiguous messages for hidden meaning that…
You’re Not Meant to Carry Everyone’s Pain Emotional boundaries. Do you find yourself absorbing others’ emotional distress as if it were your own? Perhaps you feel physically affected by the suffering around you—experiencing tension, heaviness, or even symptoms that mirror what others are going through. Maybe you notice yourself carrying others’ emotional burdens long…
Why You Feel Drained After Socializing Drained After Socializing. Do you find yourself exhausted after social gatherings that others seem to navigate with ease? Perhaps you need significant recovery time following interactions that appear energizing rather than depleting to those around you. Maybe you experience a characteristic energy crash after even enjoyable social events,…
When Your Nervous System Doesn’t Trust Calm Nervous System. Do you find yourself feeling inexplicably anxious during peaceful moments that should be relaxing? Perhaps you notice tension arising precisely when external circumstances finally settle, or experience a mysterious sense of foreboding when everything appears to be going well. Maybe you’ve observed a pattern where…
What Happens When You Stop Over-Explaining Yourself Over-explaining. The pattern is subtle but persistent—a simple “no” somehow transforms into a three-minute justification. A boundary comes wrapped in excessive reasoning. A preference arrives cushioned with elaborate context. Even minor decisions receive comprehensive explanations that nobody actually requested. This habit of over-explaining reflects more than just conversational…
The Emotional Cost of Being Hyper-Independent Emotional Cost. Do you pride yourself on rarely needing help, handling challenges alone, or maintaining complete self-sufficiency regardless of circumstances? Perhaps you find it nearly impossible to ask for support even when struggling, feel uncomfortable when others offer assistance, or experience an almost visceral aversion to appearing vulnerable…
External validation – Why You Keep Waiting for Someone to Choose You External validation. Do you find yourself perpetually waiting to be selected, noticed, or deemed worthy by others? Perhaps you hesitate to pursue meaningful goals without external validation, seek continuous confirmation that you matter to important people in your life, or find yourself…
When You Mistake Control for Safety Do you find yourself constantly planning for every contingency, struggling to delegate even minor tasks, or feeling intense anxiety when circumstances fall outside your direct influence? Perhaps you create elaborate systems to prevent potential problems, feel uncomfortable with spontaneity or uncertainty, or notice yourself becoming irritable or anxious…
How You Learned to Silence Your Needs Silence Your Needs. Do you find yourself hesitating to express even basic needs—perhaps going hungry rather than asking someone to pass the salt, remaining uncomfortable instead of adjusting the temperature, or tolerating genuine pain rather than requesting help? Maybe you notice yourself automatically minimizing what you require,…
You Deserve Peace, Not Just Relief You Deserve Peace. The distinction might seem subtle at first—the difference between momentary relief and genuine peace. Yet this distinction holds profound implications for how we navigate our emotional lives and pursue wellbeing. Relief comes as temporary respite from discomfort: the brief calm after venting frustration, the momentary distraction…
The Difference Between Regulating and Suppressing Emotions Suppressing Emotions. Do you wonder if you’re truly managing your emotions in a healthy way or just pushing them down? Perhaps you pride yourself on “staying calm” during difficult situations, yet notice tension headaches, sleep disturbances, or unexplained irritability emerging later. Maybe you’ve mastered the art of…
Stop Shrinking Yourself to Be Accepted Stop Shrinking Yourself. Have you found yourself habitually minimizing your intelligence, success, needs, or authentic expression to maintain relationships? Perhaps you downplay your achievements to avoid making others uncomfortable, hold back your full perspective to prevent potential rejection, or present a carefully edited version of yourself that seems…
When Love Feels Unsafe, But You Still Crave It Love Feels Unsafe. Do you find yourself simultaneously longing for close connection while feeling anxious or threatened when it actually occurs? Perhaps you notice a pattern of pulling away precisely when relationships start becoming meaningful, or experience a mysterious sense of danger when someone shows…
How to Stop Merging with Other People’s Emotions Stop Merging. Do you find yourself automatically absorbing the emotions of those around you? Perhaps you enter a room and immediately sense the emotional atmosphere, feeling others’ stress, sadness, or anxiety as if it were your own. Maybe you notice your mood shifting dramatically depending on who…
You Don’t Have to Prove Your Worth, Ever Prove Your Worth. The pattern operates so constantly you might barely notice it—that subtle internal pressure to demonstrate your value, to justify your space in the world, to earn your right to exist. Perhaps it manifests as relentless productivity, never quite allowing yourself to rest without guilt.…
The Hidden Pain Behind ‘I’m Fine’ Have you noticed yourself automatically responding “I’m fine” when asked how you’re doing, even when you’re struggling? Perhaps you’ve become so accustomed to masking difficult emotions that this response emerges without conscious thought, creating a public presentation that bears little resemblance to your private experience. Maybe you maintain…
Why You Overthink Everything (And How to Stop) Overthink. Do you find your mind constantly spinning with analysis, rehearsing conversations before they happen, replaying interactions after they’ve occurred, or generating endless “what if” scenarios about the future? Perhaps you’ve noticed that this mental hyperactivity rarely leads to better solutions or peace of mind but…
How to Recognize an Inner Child Reaction Inner Child. Have you ever found yourself responding to a situation with emotions that seem disproportionate to what’s actually happening? Perhaps a minor criticism triggers intense shame, a slight delay in response from someone you care about creates overwhelming anxiety, or a simple boundary request sparks unexplained…
Healing Means Learning to Sit with Discomfort Emotional avoidance. Do you find yourself automatically moving away from uncomfortable emotions? Perhaps you distract yourself when difficult feelings arise, quickly problem-solve to avoid sitting with uncertainty, or use food, screens, work, or other activities to escape emotional discomfort. Maybe you’ve noticed that despite your best efforts…
You Were Not Loved Less, You Were Loved Conditionally Conditional love. The realization often arrives during an ordinary moment—perhaps while watching siblings receive different treatment, remembering how praise always followed achievement but rarely just your presence, or noticing the subtle but unmistakable ways your authentic expression was discouraged while other qualities received celebration. Something clicks…
Trauma – How Trauma Shows Up in Everyday Decisions Trauma. Do you find yourself making choices that seem logical in the moment but create patterns that don’t align with your deeper values or desires? Perhaps you consistently avoid certain situations that objectively present minimal risk, automatically say yes to requests despite feeling overwhelmed, or…
Authentic selfhood – How to Reconnect with the Real You Authentic selfhood. Do you sometimes catch yourself wondering who you actually are beneath the roles you play? Perhaps you’ve become so adept at being what others need—the reliable colleague, the supportive friend, the perfect partner, the successful professional—that you’ve lost connection with your authentic…
Conflict avoidance – Why You Avoid Conflict (Even When You’re Right) Conflict avoidance. Do you find yourself agreeing with others even when you actually hold a different view? Perhaps you experience intense anxiety at the mere hint of disagreement, quickly backtracking or apologizing to restore harmony. Maybe you carefully monitor your opinions to avoid…
The Loneliness of Always Being ‘The Strong One’ Loneliness. Do you find yourself being the person everyone turns to in a crisis? Perhaps you’re known for your emotional stability, practical advice, and ability to handle whatever life throws your way. Maybe friends, family, and colleagues consistently rely on your strength while rarely asking how…
You Don’t Have to Be in Crisis to Deserve Support Healing Your Relationship with Support: Reframing Help as a Normal Need Do you find yourself waiting until you’re completely overwhelmed before seeking help? Perhaps you minimize your struggles, telling yourself they’re not “bad enough” to warrant support. Maybe you compare your challenges to those…
The Cost of Being the ‘Peacemaker’ in the Family Healing the Peacemaker Role: Reclaiming Authenticity and Self-Expression Did you grow up as the one who smoothed over conflicts, anticipated potential problems before they erupted, or maintained harmony at all costs? Perhaps you were labeled the “easy one,” the “mediator,” or the “peacemaker”—roles that came…
Healing Emotional Numbness: The Protective Response to Overwhelming Grief Have you experienced times when you should logically feel sad or grief-stricken—perhaps after a significant loss, during a painful ending, or in response to truly difficult circumstances—yet instead find yourself feeling strangely empty or numb? Maybe you observe others expressing appropriate sadness while you remain disconnected…
You Were Taught to Abandon Yourself to Be Loved Healing Self-Abandonment: The Price of Connection and Belonging Abandon Yourself. Do you consistently prioritize others’ needs, opinions, or comfort over your own? Perhaps you automatically set aside your preferences when they differ from someone else’s, doubt your perceptions when they conflict with another’s view, or feel…
Understanding Emotional Shutdown: A Protective Response to Connection Do you find yourself emotionally withdrawing precisely when relationships become most meaningful? Perhaps during moments of potential closeness, you experience a sudden sense of emptiness, distance, or detachment that wasn’t there moments before. Maybe your partner or friends comment that you seem to “disappear” emotionally during conflict…
The Art of Healing: Embracing Your True Self Do you find yourself wearing different masks depending on who you’re with, adapting your personality to please others, or feeling unsure about who you really are beneath the roles you play? True Self. Perhaps you sense a gap between how you present yourself externally and what you…
How to Stop Living in ‘Survival Mode’ Do you find yourself constantly scanning for threats, struggling to truly relax, or feeling perpetually on edge even in objectively safe situations? Survival Mode. Perhaps you experience chronic tension in your body, difficulty sleeping soundly, or an inability to fully enjoy positive experiences without waiting for the other…
Do you find yourself keeping others at arm’s length despite longing for deeper connection? Push People Away. Perhaps you intellectualize feelings rather than expressing them directly, use humor to deflect emotional intimacy, or find yourself shutting down precisely when relationships start becoming more meaningful. If vulnerability feels threatening rather than connective, you’re experiencing a specific…
Vulnerability – When You Fear Being Vulnerable, Here’s What to Do Do you find yourself keeping others at arm’s length despite longing for deeper connection? Vulnerability. Perhaps you intellectualize feelings rather than expressing them directly, use humor to deflect emotional intimacy, or find yourself shutting down precisely when relationships start becoming more meaningful. If…
Emotional Betrayal – Do you find yourself exhausted by relationships that should feel nourishing? Emotional Betrayal. Perhaps you meticulously track the emotional temperature of your connections, constantly adjusting your behavior to maintain harmony. Maybe you feel responsible for managing your partner’s emotions, anticipating their needs before they’re expressed, or ensuring the relationship runs smoothly at…
Do you struggle with the concept of “letting go”? The Power of Saying ‘I Don’t Know’ I Don’t Know. Perhaps you’ve been told to “just let go” of past hurts, resentments, or attachments to outcomes, as if simply deciding to release these things should immediately free you from their impact. Maybe you’ve tried to force…
Let Go – Do you struggle with the concept of “letting go”? Let Go. Perhaps you’ve been told to “just let go” of past hurts, resentments, or attachments to outcomes, as if simply deciding to release these things should immediately free you from their impact. Maybe you’ve tried to force yourself to “let go” through…
Do you find yourself constantly seeking validation from others? Seeking Validation. Do you constantly check how others are responding to you, adjusting your behavior to earn their approval? Perhaps you feel a persistent need to verify your worth through external feedback, seeking reassurance about your appearance, performance, or decisions. Maybe you find yourself mentally replaying…
External validation – Do you find it difficult to trust your own perceptions of threat or safety? External validation. Have you been told you’re “too sensitive,” “overreacting,” or even “paranoid” when you notice concerning dynamics that others seem to miss? Perhaps you detect subtle power imbalances in relationships, sense when something feels unsafe despite everyone…
Relational burnout – Do you find yourself exhausted by relationships that should feel nourishing? Relational burnout. Perhaps you meticulously track the emotional temperature of your connections, constantly adjusting your behavior to maintain harmony. Maybe you feel responsible for managing your partner’s emotions, anticipating their needs before they’re expressed, or ensuring the relationship runs smoothly at…
Productivity addiction – Do you find it nearly impossible to truly relax? Productivity addiction. Perhaps you feel a persistent uneasiness when you’re not being productive—an underlying sense that rest must be earned, justified, or at least paired with some form of achievement. Maybe you fill potential downtime with tasks, check emails during vacations, or feel…
Stop Explaining Yourself – Do you find it easier to give love than to receive it? Stop Explaining Yourself. Perhaps compliments make you uncomfortable, acts of kindness trigger an immediate urge to reciprocate, or genuine care from others creates inexplicable anxiety rather than pleasure. Maybe you deflect affection with humor, minimize your own needs to…
If You Struggle to Receive Love, Here’s Why Receive Love – Do you find it easier to give love than to receive it? Receive Love. Perhaps compliments make you uncomfortable, acts of kindness trigger an immediate urge to reciprocate, or genuine care from others creates inexplicable anxiety rather than pleasure. Maybe you deflect affection…
Why You Feel Guilty – Do you find it nearly impossible to truly relax? Why You Feel Guilty. Perhaps you feel a persistent uneasiness when you’re not being productive—an underlying sense that rest must be earned, justified, or at least paired with some form of achievement. Maybe you fill potential downtime with tasks, check emails…
Perfectionism – Do you set impossibly high standards for yourself, feeling that anything less than flawless performance is unacceptable? Perfectionism. Perhaps you spend excessive time preparing or checking your work, delay completing projects until they’re “perfect,” or avoid challenges where you might not excel immediately. While this perfectionism often masquerades as high achievement orientation or…
Trauma adaptations – Do you pride yourself on being hypervigilant, never needing help, or maintaining perfect control of your emotions? Trauma adaptations. Perhaps you’ve built an identity around being the strong one, the peacemaker, or the person who never has needs of their own. While these traits might appear as natural aspects of who you…
Survival Skills – Do you pride yourself on being hypervigilant, never needing help, or maintaining perfect control of your emotions? Survival Skills. Perhaps you’ve built an identity around being the strong one, the peacemaker, or the person who never has needs of their own. While these traits might appear as natural aspects of who you…
Say No – Do you find yourself exhausted from trying to solve other people’s problems? Say No. Perhaps you’re the one everyone turns to in a crisis, the mediator in conflicts, the emotional support for struggling friends and family. While your compassion and willingness to help are beautiful qualities, there’s a critical distinction between supporting…
You Can’t Fix Others by Breaking Yourself Breaking Yourself. Do you find yourself exhausted from trying to solve other people’s problems? Perhaps you’re the one everyone turns to in a crisis, the mediator in conflicts, the emotional support for struggling friends and family. While your compassion and willingness to help are beautiful qualities, there’s a critical…
Chronic apologizing – Do you find yourself constantly saying “sorry” for things that don’t require an apology? Chronic apologizing. Perhaps you apologize for speaking up in meetings, for taking space in a crowded hallway, or even for asking questions that are perfectly reasonable. Maybe you feel a subtle but persistent sense that your very presence…
Emotional Burnout – Do you feel a profound exhaustion that rest doesn’t seem to touch? Emotional Burnout. Perhaps you’re going through the motions of life without genuine engagement or joy. Maybe you find yourself increasingly irritable, cynical, or emotionally numb. If physical causes have been ruled out yet these experiences persist, you might be facing…
Attachment Style – Do certain patterns consistently emerge in your close relationships? Attachment Style. Perhaps you become anxious when partners need space, or you feel suffocated by normal intimacy. Maybe you find yourself attracted to unavailable people, or you shut down emotionally when relationships deepen. These patterns aren’t random personality quirks or moral failings—they reflect…
Healing the Wound – Have you carried a persistent sense that something is fundamentally wrong with you? Healing the Wound. Perhaps you became the “problem child” or “difficult one” in your family—the person who seemed to attract blame, criticism, or concern regardless of your actual behavior. If you recognize this experience, you may have been…
Hypervigilance – Do you find yourself constantly striving to prove your worth, yet never quite feeling like you’ve arrived? Hypervigilance. Perhaps you’ve achieved impressive goals, maintained high standards, or received external validation, but that persistent sense of “not enough” remains stubbornly present. This feeling isn’t random or a character flaw—it’s a specific psychological wound with…
You’re Not Enough – Do you find yourself constantly striving to prove your worth, yet never quite feeling like you’ve arrived? You’re Not Enough. Perhaps you’ve achieved impressive goals, maintained high standards, or received external validation, but that persistent sense of “not enough” remains stubbornly present. This feeling isn’t random or a character flaw—it’s a…
You Were Misunderstood – Have you spent your life hearing that you’re “too sensitive,” “too emotional,” or that you “take things too personally?” You Were Misunderstood. Perhaps you’ve internalized these messages, believing there’s something wrong with how deeply you feel and perceive the world. What if the truth is radically different? What if your sensitivity…
Relationship sabotage – Why You Sabotage Good Relationships Without Realizing It Have you noticed a frustrating pattern in your relationships? Relationship sabotage. Perhaps things go well initially, but as connection deepens, you find yourself creating distance through criticism, starting arguments, becoming emotionally unavailable, or even ending relationships entirely—despite genuinely caring about the other person. If…
The Hidden Grief Behind High-Functioning Anxiety Do you maintain a perfectly curated exterior life while internally running on the hamster wheel of worry? Anxiety. Perhaps you’re known for your competence and accomplishments, always appearing put-together despite the constant noise of anxiety in your mind. If you identify with this high-functioning anxiety—managing responsibilities well despite persistent…
How Your Nervous System Reacts to Love and Danger Have you ever wondered why you feel instantly at ease with certain people while others make you inexplicably tense, despite their outward friendliness? Nervous system or why your body sometimes reacts with alarm in situations your rational mind knows are safe? These experiences aren’t random or…
Interdependence – What ‘Being Too Independent’ Really Means Have you ever been told you’re “too independent” or that you “don’t let people in”? Interdependence. Perhaps you pride yourself on rarely needing help, handling challenges alone, or maintaining emotional self-sufficiency. While independence is generally celebrated in our culture, extreme self-reliance often masks deeper relational wounds that…
Emotional accessibility – If You’re Always the ‘Strong One’, This Is for You Are you the person everyone turns to in a crisis? Emotional accessibility. The one who listens to others’ problems, offers support, and somehow manages everything with apparent ease? Do people often say, “You’re so strong” or “I don’t know how you do…
Conditional worth – When You Think You Have to Earn Love Do you find yourself constantly striving to be “enough” for the people in your life? Conditional worth. Perhaps you believe that your worth depends on what you provide—your achievements, appearance, usefulness, or emotional support. Maybe you feel a persistent anxiety that if you stop…
Emotional depletion – You’re Not Lazy, You’re Emotionally Exhausted Do you berate yourself for not being more productive? Emotional depletion. Perhaps you have a growing list of tasks you can’t seem to start, goals you can’t pursue, or basic responsibilities that feel impossibly overwhelming. Society might label this as laziness or lack of discipline, but…
Emotional awareness – Why You Feel Empty (And What to Do About It) Emotional awareness. Perhaps you move through life checking all the right boxes—career, relationships, achievements—yet still feel like something essential is missing. This emptiness isn’t a character flaw or simply “the human condition.” It’s a specific psychological experience with identifiable roots and, most…
How to Stop Being a People Pleaser Without Feeling Guilty Do you find yourself saying yes when you really want to say no? Authentic needs. Constantly putting others’ needs before your own until you’re completely depleted? Perhaps you worry that setting boundaries might make you selfish, or that people won’t like you if you don’t…
If You Struggle with Self-Worth, Start Here Self-Worth. Perhaps you dismiss compliments, minimize your achievements, or feel like an impostor despite external success. Maybe you believe you must constantly earn your place through productivity, people-pleasing, or perfection. These experiences reflect a struggle with self-worth—not just occasional self-doubt, but a pervasive sense that your inherent value…
Emotional Neglect: The Trauma No One Talks About Have you ever felt a persistent sense of emptiness, as if something essential is missing, but you can’t quite name what it is? Do you struggle to identify or express your emotions, or find yourself feeling disconnected from your own needs and desires? These experiences often point…
The Real Reason You’re Attracted to Narcissists Do you find yourself repeatedly drawn to charming, charismatic partners who eventually reveal a darker side? Attracted to Narcissists. People who initially shower you with attention but later seem to drain your energy, diminish your sense of self, and leave you questioning your reality? If this pattern feels…
How to Break Generational Trauma Patterns Have you ever caught yourself saying something to your child, partner, or friend that sounded exactly like words from your parent—words you swore you’d never repeat? Generational Trauma. Perhaps you’ve noticed patterns in your family that seem to echo through generations: similar relationship struggles, addictive behaviors, or ways of…
Abandonment trauma – Why You Fear Being Abandoned Do you find yourself constantly worried that the people you care about will leave you? Abandonment trauma. Perhaps you feel waves of panic when someone doesn’t respond to your message quickly enough, or you experience overwhelming dread at the slightest hint of emotional distance. This fear of…
Expressive freedom – You’re Not ‘Too Much’ — You’re Just Not Heard Have you spent your whole life hearing that you’re “too much”? Expressive freedom. Too emotional, too intense, too sensitive, too loud, too quiet, too anxious, too analytical? Do you find yourself constantly dimming your light, making yourself smaller, quieter, less intense? Underneath, do…
Healing Isn’t Always Beautiful (But It’s Worth It) If you’ve begun your healing journey, you’ve probably seen the social media posts—serene people journaling in sunlit rooms, inspirational quotes about growth, tidy narratives of transformation. But what happens when your reality looks nothing like that? What if, instead of feeling better, you’re suddenly angrier than you’ve…
When You Confuse Love with Anxiety Anxiety. Have you ever noticed this pattern in your relationships? When you really fall for someone, you can’t eat or sleep. You check your phone constantly, analyzing every interaction. It’s exhausting but exciting—and you’ve come to believe that’s what passionate love feels like. But what if that feeling isn’t…
Self-care – If You Always Put Others First, read this Take a moment to consider your typical day.Self-care. Do you wake early to prepare others’ breakfasts? Work through lunch to help colleagues? Stay late solving friends’ problems? If by the end of the day you feel completely depleted yet saying no still feels impossible, this…
Love addiction – Stop Chasing Love: Start Healing Have you ever felt like you’re constantly chasing after people who can never quite love you enough?Love addiction. That exhausting cycle of trying to be more lovable, more interesting, more worthy of someone’s attention? If you’re nodding right now, know that you’re not alone in this pattern.…
Signs You Grew Up in a Dysfunctional Family If you’ve ever wondered whether your childhood was “normal,” you’re not alone.Dysfunctional Family. Many people raised in challenging family environments have normalized their experiences, questioning their perceptions rather than the dysfunction itself. “My father yelled a lot, but all parents get angry, right? My mother drank, but…
Emotional responsibility – Do You Feel Responsible for Everyone’s Emotions? Do you find yourself constantly monitoring the emotional temperature of every room you enter?Emotional responsibility. Perhaps you jump in with a joke when you sense tension, spend hours helping others process their feelings, or feel physically ill when those around you are upset. If…
Why You Attract Emotionally Unavailable People Do you find yourself repeatedly drawn to people who can’t fully engage emotionally?Emotionally Unavailable People. Despite your best intentions, do you keep getting involved with partners who are distant, inconsistent, or unable to commit? This pattern isn’t random, and it’s not a reflection of your worth. There’s a deeper…
How Childhood Wounds Show Up in Adult Relationships Do you notice certain relationship scenarios that trigger intense emotional reactions in you—reactions that seem bigger than the current situation warrants?Childhood Wounds. Perhaps minor criticism from your partner feels devastating, or their brief distance triggers panic. These moments where you feel suddenly transported into overwhelming emotion often…
This Is Why You Can’t Set Boundaries (And How to Start) Do you find yourself saying yes when you want to say no?Boundaries. Staying in uncomfortable situations to avoid disappointing others? Feeling resentful afterward but unable to change the pattern? If setting boundaries feels nearly impossible despite knowing you need them, there’s a deeper…
Modern Medicine: A System That Treats Effects, Not Causes Modern medicine, for all its technological advances and scientific successes, suffers from a fundamental problem: it is not designed to seek out, understand, and treat the causes of disease. Instead, it focuses on controlling symptoms and providing temporary solutions that do not lead to real cures.…
Narcissistic parents and the impact on their child Narcissistic parents, especially mothers, have a deep and lasting impact on their child, regardless of their gender. These mothers often dominate the relationship, placing their own needs, desires and expectations before the needs of their children, and this has long-term consequences for the emotional development of their…
Psychosomatics vol. 9 – Diseases of the Stomach (Thyroid diseases) Thyroid diseases and ailments of the Stomach – Rüdiger Dahlke, a well-known German physician and author of numerous books on holistic health, particularly deals with issues that connect the body, mind and spirit. In his works, he often interprets ailments as symbolic manifestations of psychological…
The Toxic Impact of Narcissistic Influencers In today’s society, there is a growing influence of influencers who use platforms such as YouTube and other social networks to spread their messages of self-help, male superiority, “alpha” mentality and similar topics. Names like Andrew Tate, Fresh & Fit and Casey Zander have become synonymous with this type…
Addiction as a Consequence of Toxic Relationships Addiction is often understood as a matter of choice or will, but a growing body of research is showing that it is not simply a problem of substance use, but a much deeper problem of emotional and social isolation. To understand addiction, it is crucial to understand that…
The topic in question is the misunderstanding and rejection of trauma as a sporting element in the context of various ailments of the population of Western civilization. The word “trauma” is used very frequently nowadays and has taken on more meanings due to which its true meaning has been obscured and diluted. Trauma needs to…
Spirituality – The power of faith and/or spirituality in the psychotherapy process In the life of every human being, there inevitably comes a time when one faces challenges that seem insurmountable. Then the inner strength that carries us forward is key, and one of the most important sources of this strength lies in faith. Faith,…
Disney – Why children should not have to watch Disney’s creations part 3 Disney, once a bastion of family entertainment and a symbol of the wonder of childhood, is facing challenges non-stop. Its latest production, the adaptation of Snow White, was mired in controversy—focused not only on the creative choices of the film, but also…
The polyvagal theory is useful for understanding stress The polyvagal theory, developed by Dr. Stephen Porges, provides a revolutionary framework for understanding the way our autonomic nervous system manages stress, safety and social bonding. Our bodies are not just physical machines that react to external stimuli – they are dynamic systems that react to the…
The effects of marijuana – Marijuana addiction The effects of marijuana are a complex issue. Cannabis smoking can be seen as a simple and quick way to relieve internal tension, especially when the nervous system is in a state of chronic activation due to trauma. Trauma, especially if it is not processed, can have serious…
Regulation of the nervous system is the key to life satisfaction Regulation of the nervous system is a discipline that enables our body and mind to return to equilibrium after we have experienced stress or trauma. Without this ability, our body can remain “buried” in a state of arousal, anxiety or even lethargy. This condition…
The psychological game “Wooden leg” In the book “What Play Do You Want?”, Eric Berne, the founder of transactional analysis, describes the various psychological games that people use in everyday life. One such game is also called “Wooden leg”. This game is based on the use of real or imagined limitations to justify an unacceptable…
The relationship between a father and son plays a key role in the development of identity The relationship between a father and son plays a key role in the development of the identity, emotional stability and social skills of a young boy. A quality relationship with a father can significantly affect the way in which…
Why is authenticity appealing? Authenticity is key to achieving autonomy and a life of abundance. Authenticity, in this context, means believing in yourself, your own values and your inner sense of identity. When we push our authenticity, often in an effort to conform to social norms or the expectations of others, we lose touch with…
Injury as a consequence of trauma Trauma as a consequence of trauma is something that is not talked about much. Trauma, which is often talked about in terms of physical health, is deeply intertwined with psychological factors that can transform it into a form of trauma. Despite the visible consequences of excessive stress, grief can…
Depression as a symptom of deeply suppressed emotions Depression is a state that often comes as a result of long-standing, suppressed anger. Sadness, as an emotion, has its natural function in the process of emotional recovery. When we experience loss, disappointment or deep sadness, sadness allows us to connect with what we have lost, to…
Manipulation of people through official media In modern society, exposure to information and manipulation has never been greater. Mainstream media plays a significant role in shaping our understanding of the world, but its constant monitoring can negatively affect our mental health, perspective, and daily functioning. While being informed has its benefits, it is crucial to…
Somatic Experiencing i seksualna trauma – Iscjeljivanje kroz tijelo Traditional talk therapies, although invaluable, are sometimes unsuccessful in resolving deeply rooted physical manifestations of trauma. Here, Somatic Experiencing (SE), a therapeutic approach focused on the body, offers profound relief and healing. Understanding Somatic Experiencing SE, developed by Dr. Peter A. Levine, is based on the…
Transgenerational trauma – It didn’t start with you “It didn’t start with you” by Marek Wolynn offers an in-depth exploration of the field of transgenerational trauma, shedding light on how inherited family trauma shapes our lives. The book explains the concept that the experiences of our ancestors, especially their unresolved traumas, can be passed down…
The evolution of masculinity in modern society In modern society, men often struggle with feelings of alienation and frustration. Traditional concepts of masculinity are being redefined, sometimes in ways that act to disorient or even threaten those who have long valued masculinity through more conventional means. This changing landscape is characterized by various cultural, social…
Unconditional love Love, in its purest form, is often experienced as an unconditional force – a compelling, energizing energy that embraces the individual, accepting them in their entirety. Meanwhile, the intimacy of human relationships and the dynamics of parent-child interaction bring complex emotions, expectations and psychological development to the interplay. Conditional love and its consequencesConditional…
Silence: Understanding the power of ignoring in relationships between adults Silence in disputes often leads to strange behavior that can shape the emotional character of individuals or even entire generations. Kada se nakon svađe u vezi, partnerstvu ili braku jedna osoba povuče, ušuti i počne ignorirati drugu, nastaje neugodna i napeta atmosfera. Obično se onaj…
Exploring the transformative dimensions of Ayahuasca sessions Ayahuasca, a sacred plant medicine originating from the Amazon rainforest, has attracted widespread attention for its potential to induce profound psychological, physical, and spiritual experiences. Ayahuasca, known for its psychoactive properties, is associated with deep introspection, emotional release and increased self-awareness. Active ingredients in the pill, which reduce…
ADHD as a consequence of trauma Attention deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) is a neurodevelopmental disorder that can significantly affect various aspects of an individual’s life, including employment, education and relationships. Dealing with ADHD requires a multidisciplinary approach that includes practical strategies and psychological techniques. A structured routine can be extremely useful. Creating daily schedules, prioritizing tasks…
The connection between the throat and the pelvis or how to allow yourself to have an intense orgasm In the human body there is a silent connection between two seemingly different areas: the limbs and the neck. This connection, often neglected and underestimated, is revealed in the joint structure of these anatomical structures, born from…
Kidneys psychosomatics – What does the body tell us? Kidneys psychosomatics. The kidneys are important organs in the human body, responsible for a number of vital functions that maintain our health and well-being.Located in the lower part of the torso, on either side of the kidneys, these pear-shaped organs play a key role in filtering…
Overcoming Shame: The Path to Healing and Self-Acceptance Shame is, as the well-known psychologist Belaruth Nepristec described it, a complex and immobilizing emotion that can arise from a wounding trauma in childhood or fear of being rejected by a group. It can affect every aspect of our lives, leading to a detachment from our authentic…
Attachment Styles Early interactions are shaped by experiences with primary caregivers, laying the foundation for our adult relationship patterns. Let’s take a look at the different attachment styles that often emerge from these formative experiences. In the secure attachment realm, individuals typically reflect a sense of autonomy and emotional resilience. Growing up, they likely had…
Fear of Life and Erectile Dysfunction The fear of intimacy within the schizoid structure is intricately linked to emotional detachment and can have significant implications, including a potential link to erectile dysfunction. The emotional barriers that individuals with the schizoid structure erect can extend to physical intimacy, leading to difficulty establishing and maintaining intimate relationships.…
Character styles of survival and defense Schizoid structure:A schizoid structure is characterized by emotional detachment and an expressed need for autonomy. Individuals with schizoid traits often struggle with forming deep emotional bonds, which can lead to feelings of isolation and a tendency towards loneliness. The relationship may be emotionally distant, and it is difficult to…
Psychosomatics vol. 7. – Cancer – What does the body tell us? Psychosomatics cancer. To understand cancer, it is particularly important to think analogously. It is worth becoming aware of the fact that every whole that we feel or define (unity among unities) is, on the one hand, part of an even larger whole, and…
Group therapy Group therapy, according to the book “Theory and practice of group psychotherapy” (Jalom, 2005). One of the basic principles focuses on the hope that group therapy brings to its members. Each individual comes to therapy with a specific problem, and in the group, unlike the individual approach, they come face to face with…
Delaying masturbation: Discovering the Physical and Psychological Benefits In the realm of personal wellness, individuals often encounter a variety of practices that contribute to their overall health, both physical and mental. One such practice that is gaining attention is the decision to put masturbation on hold. This conscious choice can lead to transformative outcomes, affecting…
Projective identification Projective identification is a complex process that often goes unnoticed, but plays a key role in interpersonal relationships and psychological functioning. Regardless of whether or not it is conscious, this phenomenon often occurs during communication and interpersonal interaction. Deeply rooted in psychological dynamics, this concept reflects the way in which people transfer their…
Synchronicity Have you ever had a moment when you felt that everything in the world was working just for you? A moment so perfectly synchronized that it leaves you feeling electrified and full of hope. Imagine finding yourself at the center of time, caught in a web of synchronicity so dense that it seems as…
Masculine and Feminine Life Energy The concept of masculine and feminine energy in relationships transcends the traditional gender binary, encompassing a spectrum of qualities that are manifested in different individuals. These energies represent a mix of assertiveness, caring, receptiveness, action, and understanding, often categorized as ‘masculine’ and ‘feminine’ energies for the sake of distinction, rather…
Why Do Nice Guys Always “Finish Last”? Why Do Nice Guys Always “Finish Last”? In the realm of relationships and attraction, there is a significant observation regarding the dynamic between individuals who are often labeled as “nice” and those who are often perceived as more adventurous or risk-taking. This pattern prompts research into the underlying…
Psychosomatics vol. 6 – Anorexia – What does the body tell us? A person refuses to eat because they don’t have the will to do so, and then dies from it, without ever having developed a sense of being sick. Families and doctors of such patients often have greater difficulty showing greatness. They all try…
Toxic Guilt and How It Works Toxic Guilt. Human beings often struggle with a pervasive sense of guilt, an emotional burden that can weigh heavily on our minds. However, it is important to understand that this guilt is often rooted in a misunderstanding of our actions and intentions. We tend to over-blame ourselves, taking the…
How to Beat Gambling Addiction Gambling addiction is a complex maze of human behavior. The siren call of this activity often evokes emotions and triggers that are complex and deeply ingrained in individuals. While the focus may be on the act itself, understanding the underlying mechanisms that drive this behavior is key to resolving the…
Eating Disorders as Toxic Regulation by Our Parents Eating disorders, parental regulation, and self-regulation are intricately intertwined in the intricate dance of human development. From a psychological perspective, the dynamics between individuals and their parents play a key role in shaping their emotional and behavioral regulation without compromising their own regulation. The balance between respecting…
Psychosomatics vol.5 – Liver – What does the body tell us? The liver does not make it easy for us to observe ourselves, because it is an organ with multiple functions. It is one of the largest organs in humans and the central organ of intermediate metabolism, or, figuratively speaking, the human laboratory. Let us…
Somatic Experiencing and a Car Accidents Somatic Experiencing Therapy and Car Accidents. Somatic Experiencing Therapy (SET) has emerged as a promising approach to treating posttraumatic stress disorder (PTSD) resulting from car accidents. PTSD, a complex mental health condition, often occurs after a traumatic event, causing distressing symptoms that can persist long after the incident. SET,…
Toxic Messages in Disney Cartoons Beauty and the Beast: This classic tale presents a potentially problematic portrayal of romantic relationships. It normalizes the idea that love can change an abusive or controlling partner, which can be dangerous for young viewers. The depiction of the Beast’s transformation after Belle’s love could inadvertently convey the message that…
Alan Ford: Exploring Transformative Lessons Within the seemingly whimsical pages of Alan Ford lie profound lessons that extend beyond the surface humor and satire. Resilience to the AbsurdAlan Ford teaches the virtue of resilience in the face of absurdity. Faced with surreal challenges and comic mishaps, the characters exemplify the importance of adapting to the…
Solitude – Why is it so important? The inherent power and necessity of solitude in nurturing optimal mental health is an important aspect that is often overlooked in contemporary discourse. Solitude, when understood beyond the realm of isolation, emerges as a fundamental catalyst for profound psychological well-being, thanks to its ability to facilitate self-discovery, introspection,…
Why Do We Love What Is Not Good for Us? Human desires are complex and mysterious forces that drive our actions and decisions. While we often strive to achieve what is beneficial and healthy for us, there is an equally strong desire for what is forbidden or harmful. This paradoxical aspect of human nature raises…
Transgenerational Trauma Transgenerational trauma, an invisible but profound legacy that is passed down through generations, transcends time and space. It lingers in the shadows of family narratives, subtly weaving its tendrils into the fabric of our existence. Among the myriad forms of transgenerational trauma, sexual trauma stands as a poignant testament to the lasting impact…
Somatic Experiencing Therapy for Trauma: Resolving Unfinished Business and Unfreezing the Past Trauma treatment. The impact of trauma on an individual goes beyond emotional wounds, often leaving an indelible mark on the body itself. Conventional therapies have long recognized the need to address the psychological and physiological aspects of trauma, but Somatic Experiencing Therapy (SET)…
Sugar Addiction Sugar Addiction – Exploring the psychological and traumatic factors that contribute to the development of sugar addiction is essential to understanding this complex issue. By exploring these underlying causes, we can gain insight into the forces that drive individuals to overconsume sugar. Emotional Coping MechanismFor many individuals, sugar serves as a way to…
Procrastination, Postponement, Procrastination Procrastination, often misunderstood as a manifestation of laziness, is a complex behavioral pattern that can be rooted in a variety of psychological and emotional factors. While it may seem like a simple avoidance of tasks, it is crucial to recognize that procrastination can also be an indicator of underlying mental health challenges,…
Suppressed anger: Uncovering the Path to Chronic Illness Suppressed anger occupies a prominent place in the complex palette of human emotions. Often misunderstood and stigmatized, anger is a natural and healthy emotion that serves as a vital signal for our well-being. However, when individuals consistently repress their anger, the consequences can extend far beyond the…
Psychosomatics vol. 4 – Pancreas – what does the body tell us? The pancreas is also part of the digestive system, and it primarily has two functions: the exocrine part produces essential digestive juices, whose activity is clearly aggressive. The endocrine part of the pancreas, the islet cells, produces insulin. Insufficient productivity of these…
Psychosomatics vol. 3 – Small and large intestines – what does the body tell us? The small intestine is where food is digested by breaking it down into its individual components (analysis) and assimilation. The external similarity between the small intestine and the brain is noticeable. Both have a similar task and function: the brain…
Criticism and Shame – Unraveling the Complex Web of Criticism and Shame Transfer Criticism and Shame. In the intricate tapestry of human interaction, the dynamics of criticism and shame transfer play a key role in shaping our emotional landscapes. These processes can be confusing, often leading to distorted perceptions of ourselves and others. Delving into…
Frustration and its crucial role in mental growth On the path of human existence, frustration often appears as an unsung hero. Although it is often perceived as an obstacle to happiness, frustration is an essential and powerful catalyst for personal growth, mental health, and overall well-being. The intricate dance between frustration and motivation is one…
Crucial Balance: Cultivating a Healthy Ego for Psychological Well-Being In the field of psychological discourse, the concept of ego is often at the center of discussions. However, recent trends seem to advocate dismantling or even eradicating the ego, citing spiritual growth and selflessness as ultimate goals. While it is true that self-awareness and growth are…
Discovering the Power of Trauma Survival Discovering power in the realm of therapy, the landscape of trauma recovery is a complex terrain that requires a deep understanding of the resilience of the human spirit. The importance of acknowledging the gravity of traumatic experiences is immense, highlighting the phrase: “You survived” as a guiding light in…
Stages of a Romantic Relationship Stages of a Romantic Relationship. Romantic relationships are intricate and multifaceted journeys that often reflect the complexity of human emotions, desires, and vulnerabilities. In this article, we’ll explore the different stages of romantic relationships and delve into strategies for navigating them. Stage 1: The Bloom of RomanceAt the beginning of…
Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway – Embracing Courage: Managing Fear and Growth Susan Jeffers’ book, “Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway,” serves as a guiding light for those struggling with their fears. Recognizing Fear as a Universal Experience One of the core tenets of Jeffers’ book is her assertion that fear is…
Healthy Self-Esteem in Children The foundation of a child’s self-esteem is built through a delicate balance of emotional attunement, sensitive communication, and consistent boundaries. 1. Authentic ConnectionChildren develop a sense of self-worth through interactions with caregivers. Establishing an authentic connection with your child involves being present and genuinely involved in moments of interaction. Active listening…
Addressing the Limitations of Modern Medicine Through Holistic Solutions The modern Western medical system has made significant advances in the treatment of disease, but its exclusive focus on the biological aspects of healing has led to several critical shortcomings. This essay explores four prominent issues within modern Western medicine: neglect of trauma, isolation of organ…
Embracing the Fluidity of Choice: Changing Your Mind Changing Your Mind. In the vast expanse of human experience, our beliefs, values, and perspectives are not monoliths but dynamic entities influenced by the currents of life. Much like a canvas that unfolds under an artist’s brushstrokes, our minds evolve through the strokes of experience, learning, and…
Embracing Lightness: The Sentence “It’s Not That Serious” In the intricate tapestry of human emotions and experiences, there is a simple yet profound phrase that has the power to change our perspective on life. “It’s not that serious”—a seemingly innocuous string of words that carries within it a pearl of wisdom that can relieve stress,…
The Positive Impact of Comics on a Child’s Mental Development Throughout the intricate journey of a child’s development, numerous influences converge to shape a child’s psychological landscape. While it is well known that parental support, education, and a nurturing environment play a key role, an often overlooked catalyst for positive psychological development is the world…
The power of taking risks There is a powerful force in the realm of human experience that has the potential to shape the course of our lives in profound ways—the power to take risks. In this article, I delve into the significance of risk-taking from a therapeutic perspective, shedding light on its ability to catalyze…
Why is it good to be vulnerable? A journey to inner fulfillment and connection The concept of vulnerability emerges as a shimmering thread that has the potential to profoundly transform lives. From a therapist’s perspective, it becomes apparent that embracing vulnerability is a portal to profound rewards—rewards that resonate deeply with our intrinsic need for…
Healing Parental Bonds Before They’re Gone In the intricate tapestry of human existence, relationships serve as vibrant threads that weave together our experiences and emotions. Among these bonds, the bond shared with parents holds unique and profound meaning. As life unfolds its unpredictable course, a poignant truth emerges: the importance of reconciling and nurturing these…
Psychosomatics vol. 2 – teeth, swallowing, nausea and stomach – what does the body tell us? Psychosomatics and the stomach Food enters the mouth first and is ground by the teeth. We bite with our teeth. Biting is a very aggressive action, an expression of the ability to “grab”. Just as a dog gnashes its…